After my husband had convinced me that the destruction of our marriage was mostly my fault, I started to do some investigating. It all started one night when I went out with some friends, and got a disturbing Facebook notification.
Ahh, Facebook.....it's amazing that this new age social networking phenomenon can play such a large role in our lives.
Anyway, I got a notification that someone had posted something after a rather unfriendly comment I posted on the hubby's wall. This led me to discover
Ahh, Facebook.....it's amazing that this new age social networking phenomenon can play such a large role in our lives.
Anyway, I got a notification that someone had posted something after a rather unfriendly comment I posted on the hubby's wall. This led me to discover
Truth #1: Alicia.
Once I found out some tidbits of information from the Aunts and friends who were also snooping around the internet, I started checking phone records, turns out, hubby and Alicia had been chatting for hours on end since mid-February, the day after Valentines Day to be exact.
When I confronted hubby about this fact, he continued to deny that he had committed any wrong doing and that he never cheated on me, and he left only because I was a horrible person to be around. What a joke! He explained that he did not intend to start a relationship with Alicia, nor did he plan to move in with her when he left me, and that they had known each other for their whole adult lives and that they had dated on and off for 13 years. Hold on.......13 years? Let's see, he and I were together for 4 years, and I started dating him one week after he broke up with his previous girlfriend (not Alicia) of 5 years.....that's about 9 years. Are you seeing where the numbers don't add up? But now they are in love (apparently this happened overnight several weeks after he moved out of my house according to their story.) That leads me to
When I confronted hubby about this fact, he continued to deny that he had committed any wrong doing and that he never cheated on me, and he left only because I was a horrible person to be around. What a joke! He explained that he did not intend to start a relationship with Alicia, nor did he plan to move in with her when he left me, and that they had known each other for their whole adult lives and that they had dated on and off for 13 years. Hold on.......13 years? Let's see, he and I were together for 4 years, and I started dating him one week after he broke up with his previous girlfriend (not Alicia) of 5 years.....that's about 9 years. Are you seeing where the numbers don't add up? But now they are in love (apparently this happened overnight several weeks after he moved out of my house according to their story.) That leads me to
Truth #2: he did not get an apartment, him and Alicia were living together, with her two young children (did I mention the two young children?).
Turns out, her husband was reported missing in late December, and was found dead the next day, I guess she decided that a month and a half of grieving was enough for her and four and a half months after burying her husband, she was living with mine and in love. Well, good for them.
So, here I am, single again, and caught up in this tangled mess. This experience has opened my eyes to so many things and has made me realize that life is short and I need to get off my ass and do something with it. There are a lot of changes I need to make in my life right now, and I'm looking forward to seeing where the story goes as I step into the next chapter.... and hoping that there are some folks in cyberspace that want to go along for the ride.....
So, here I am, single again, and caught up in this tangled mess. This experience has opened my eyes to so many things and has made me realize that life is short and I need to get off my ass and do something with it. There are a lot of changes I need to make in my life right now, and I'm looking forward to seeing where the story goes as I step into the next chapter.... and hoping that there are some folks in cyberspace that want to go along for the ride.....
